EPISODE 2: For years, I believed that giving more made me a better person. That the exhaustion was proof I was doing it right. That my needs were a problem to manage, not a signal to listen to. It wasn't noble. It was slowly killing me.
In Episode 2 of The Nurtured Queen Podcast, I'm getting honest about the dark side of selflessness — how it becomes a form of control, how it quietly turns us resentful and toxic, and how the reframe to "healthy selfishness" isn't about putting yourself first no matter what. It's about finally believing that you matter too.
IN THIS EPISODE
The lie we've been told about selfishness
Six signs your selflessness has crossed the line
Why over-giving is actually a form of control
The dark side of altruism without boundaries
The "me too" reframe — and how to actually practice it
Daily moves to start putting your needs on the list
SOURCES & REFERENCES
Heart disease caused 304,970 deaths among U.S. women in 2023, about 1 in 5 female deaths. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), “About Women and Heart Disease”
Only about half (56%) of U.S. women recognize heart disease as their #1 killer. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), “About Women and Heart Disease”
Stress can contribute to behaviors and factors that raise heart disease risk. American Heart Association, “Stress and Heart Health”
American Heart Association News, “Chronic stress can cause heart trouble”
RESOURCES
💜 If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship: National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788 · loveisrespect.org
Download the free Toxic Lifestyle Audit worksheet
The Nurtured Queen: What Toxic Love Cost Me and What Healing Restored — Mi'Esha's debut memoir, coming October 29.
The Nurtured Queen Podcast is for women rebuilding themselves after loving the wrong people, places, and patterns. New episodes drop every Thursday.
